If I had it to do over, I would be much more assertive and much less trusting. I didn’t ask my surgeon how successful he had been, what his strengths were, his failures, and so forth. If I had it to do over, I would use all the strategies I know how to use when buying things like cars, toasters, houses and etc.

I would ask questions like:

How many of these surgeries have you done?

How do you define success?

How many of your patients maintained their ability to have erections?

How many became incontinent?

Why does it take so long to schedule treatment when we are told our cancer is aggressive?