“Got” Cancer

It is an astonishing understatement to say that dealing with cancer is difficult. Difficult to describe. Difficult to talk with others. It was difficult enough for me twelve years ago. And it remains difficult when I learn that someone else has to deal with the language concerning this abominable disease.

Perhaps because I write poetry, I think I believe that if I can find the right word, then I will win. I realize that is crazy, but I don’t care.

So, today I am tackling “got”. I hope it works for you and yours.

What to do with fear?

When we are facing the possibility of our death or the loss of someone we love, what can we do? Fear is a useful emotion – it tells us to protect ourselves, to take action. But if our actions may not help, what do we do?

Fear, sitting in my chest can overwhelm me. I can use immense amounts of my energy suppressing fear – stuffing it deep inside. But at a huge cost. Or I can express it – talking to those I trust – or I can go into the forest and scream it out of my body. There is merit in both approaches.

Or, as I recently learned, I can simply release my fear. I call this being “softly fearless”.